Out of Your League

We have all been there. We have all ogled over some actor or actress, TV characters, athletes, or politicians. But can this ever be taken too far? Having a parasocial relationship, in my opinion, is normal and healthy. It creates a bond for not only the two people, but it also brings together a network of people who share the same fascination. It does get kind of weird because a parasocial relationship is a connection with someone when that idealized person basically doesn’t know you exist. The upside of it is all the normal everyday people they bring together like Harry Potter or Twilight fans. A perfect example of a parasocial relationship lies with yours truly. Me with Ryan Reynolds. I might have a boyfriend and he might be married to Blake now, but he is my husband. I mean the dude is hot and I’d marry him, spend my life with him, and have his perfectly sculpted children (I’m just waiting for him to pop the question. Oh, and of course meet him for the first time). But to me, he will always be my perfect person, even though he’s much older, is married, and smokes. Those are minor details I can always look past to be the next and best Mrs. Reynolds.

Now I don’t obsess with him every day and fantasize about meeting him and our wedding day, but this is the casual standing joke. It’s light, it only comes up every once and a while, my friend and I bond over it because she thinks he is perfect too, and so these “fake relationships” bring together the real ones.

Over the weekend a movie was on with him in it and my boyfriend said “Oh God, there’s your husband. I better change the channel now before you get too excited!” and he changed the channel on me. I don’t even know what movie it was, but when the channel flipped I felt a pang of guilt for not watching the rest of it. And the sad part is, Ryan Reynolds doesn’t even know I exist.